Choices

Coetzer 13-12-2020

Every day is a choice, are you up for the challenge?

Choices are part of our everyday life. Sometimes it is hard to make the “right” choices, like eating correctly, looking after our health by exercising more, etc.

There are reasons for not making more reliable choices, but they are unique to each individual. Therefore, discovering and confronting your own set of belief systems, will give you more lasting value, than reading it from a list.

Our choices are related to a huge number of rules, that we use, to validate our decision against. Ever wondered how these rules came about? Who has written them? Better, yet why are they so hard to change? Why does the kid in you want to jump over a puddle and the mature you, swear at it, while walking around it? What has caused the mind shift?

Within ourselves we have closed the door on life adventures and then we complain about our boring life’s. Remember how curious we use to be, when we where younger, why has it died a slow death and why are we embracing it as acceptable? All of it is connected to the thought pattern we have chosen to respond to, that we have programmed ourselves with, decades ago.

It is like you are trying to fix a brand-new Maserati with a repair manual of 1950, nothing adds up and the tension just increases. For choices governs our feelings. So, if you do not manage it, it will manage you! What you focus on you will get and a lot of our focusing is not on any positive stuff. Compounded to this, the fact that we are not conscious of the estimated 6 500 choices we do daily, then it is not difficult to understand why some people be come distracted and depressed.

We are the authors of our life, but we got stuck, only writing dramas or even horrors. What has become of your youth dreams? How did you end up where you are today? Can you see it was a choice system that brought you here today? It is this same choice structure, that will get you out of any mess, if you choose to do so. No one can do it for you!

You have received the privilege of making choices, so you can choose to stay as you are or you can choose to change your STATE and start living again. What do I mean? Remember, no events have any meaning; WE give it a meaning! The meaning that we give it, is based on a choice. We tend to link the current situation to a label of an old experience in the past! No wonder we cannot get ahead. You will sit and should all over yourself the whole time if you keep on entertaining these thought patterns.

I should stand up earlier because I am always late. I should eat less because I am getting fat. I should, I should, I should, all labelled against a past exclamation or confirmation. Your choices of labelling are getting the better of you and you will never have any breakthrough in all your should areas of your life. They will never become must’s areas. This is unless you choose to alter your STATE.

Now, to help enhance the speed of this transformation, think of STATE as a Single Thought Adjustment That Empowers. Exchange the rule book for a warning light, that illuminates on every incident where you consciously discover that you are labelling any event with a feeling. This observation will immediately alter your choice on the matter. Feelings will get new meanings that will enhance the choice pattern to migrate from a should, to a feeling of accomplishment, by merely being observant in identifying a habitual choice pattern.

Then if you want to get rid of this for ever, you must choose to start asking the question why? Why is this warning light illuminating when this situation arises? Why am I feeling this way? What can I choose to learn from this feeling?

At a later stage we will deal with the way we response to feelings within conversations. For there is a unique way, to choose (not easy but very powerful), to defuse any conflict. Does it sound interesting? Then make sure to bookmark this site because, it has only begun.

Thank you for your time and feel free to leave a comment below, remember life is not a journey, for if it was, our focus might be so dedicated to the end destination, that we cannot enjoy, the view, as it is today, in the present time. No life is far more mysterious than any old journey, because your contribution or thoughts in this comment section below, might just be the tune that is required by someone, that will create a song, that will have the whole world dancing to it. The tune and song of the dance of life in the present moment.

Come on make the CHOICE, if you are up for the challenge!